Quick answer… No. There are two very key reasons we are not born with emotional intelligence. One is nature and the other is nurture.
From a nature perspective, our brains are not born fully developed. When we are infants and children, we are prewired to be narcissistic. If, as infants, we were to have emotional intelligence, we would also possess empathy and would think through things like waking up our mothers to feed us in the middle of the night because we realized that she may be tired and needs her sleep. Our primal driver is to have our own needs satisfied.
Our brain’s emotional center – also known as the frontal lobe – does not fully develop until we are about 26-years old in females and sadly, not until 32-years old in males (and some would argue that it never really fully develops in males). Not until then are we fully capable of completing our emotional intelligence journey.
From a nurture perspective, it takes time and experience (from all the trials and tribulations of life) to understand – consciously or otherwise – the components of emotional intelligence, which are…
Nurturing one’s emotional intelligence takes a tremendous amount of…
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